Dealing with the emotional issue of breaking up has got to be one of the toughest situations anyone can be confronted with. What is it with the human psyche that we always want what we can't have.

Relationships deteriorate over time and the sad part is, it takes a break up situation to shake one or both people into reality. But the problem with most break ups is they are usually only one way. One partner wants out for whatever reason and the situation normally gets ugly.

When T W Jackson released his book The Magic Of Making Up, most would have not given it a second glance but it has since proven to be somewhat controversial. Jackson's techniques in helping people get their ex back are not the ones usually taught by high paid counsellors. In fact, he cuts through all the BS and gets straight to the nitty gritty.

Jackson calls for a cool head from the person being spurned and temper any desperate thoughts. Ok, that sounds a reasonable request but unless you've had those infamous words of "I think we should break up" directed at you, then you'll know that keeping a cool head and fighting desperate thoughts is the last thing on your mind.

Most will want to argue the decision and try and convince their spouse that they are not thinking straight and they'll come to their senses by thinking about what they're saying. Or, they'll simply act desperate and declare they cannot live without them. And what's usually the result when a spurned person reacts with this type of response. Right, they are convincing their spouse that the decision he or she has just made has just been vindicated.

You see, when someone makes a decision such as wanting to split up with their partner, it's usually as a result of a build up of resentment over whatever wasn't working in the relationship. When the bubble finally bursts, they usually just want out. There's no negotiation and no discussing it. They just want out. And the last person they want to see in their lives is the exact same person they've spent time with and loved.

How fickle love is. It's true, there is a fine line between love and hate and when it's crossed, it's one of the hardest things to reverse. But T W Jackson says he has the techniques to achieve this and in reasonably quick time.

The Magic Of Making Up could very well become one of the most important books ever written on the subject of making up. It certainly is revolutionary and at times unorthodox but what the heck, if there's something in there one can use to their advantage in being given a second chance, then why not.